Letting Go of Needing to be Perfect

Letting Go of Needing to be Perfect

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Date : October 27, 2013

Many of us are plagued with the desperate compulsion to be perfect. We operate in a world where we are taught that anything less than total flawlessness is utter failure. This includes school grades, job assignments, household chores, measuring up to what you assume peers or partner expectations are and meeting parent’s demands.

 

This need to be perfect creates ongoing anxiety and can cause physical symptoms such as stomach pain, headaches and lethargy. The perfection end goal is...

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Why it is important for our Children to have Friends

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Date : October 27, 2013

In my practice and personal life, I interact with many children.  I am always curious about what social trends are actually happening as opposed to those being blown up in the media.

One story that doesn’t seem to get much play is the fact that America’s children seem to be very isolated from their peers.  They don’t seem to have close friendships and they rarely see other children outside of school, unless it is an organized sporting activity or a rare “play date” that is arranged...

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Child Addiction to Video Games/Electronics: A National Crisis that Cries out for Intervention

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Date : October 18, 2013

We know that many of our children are addicted to video games and electronic devices. The documented effects are:  obesity, irritability, decreased academic performance, increased laziness, decreased socialization with peers and family, over exposure to violence and overstimulation of the brain.

There are other issues that tie into these researched problems that are addressed here.

First of all, how do we know that our children are addicted to electronics?

If you ask you...

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Physical Exercise plus Music Heals Grief and Loss

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Date : October 12, 2013

I was exhausted and my sleep was interrupted every five seconds by intrusive thoughts and the need to go to the bathroom. This latter thing is an unwelcome feature of aging. I had one of those nights where I was aware of each word that came to mind and I never really fell into a restful sleep.

 

It was dawn and the sun was starting to burst through the fog remnants. I rolled out of bed while my wife calmly continued to rest. I found my neon orange running shorts and shoes to...

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Help! I’m Trapped in the Middle of my Parent’s Divorce and I Can’t get Out

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Date : October 6, 2013

My name is Theo and I am eleven years old. My parents have been divorced for five years and I have a sister, Elaine who is thirteen. I live at my mom’s house for a few days and then I stay with my dad for the remainder of the week. Every weekend I alternate staying at each of their houses. It can get confusing and there are many times I don’t know where my stuff is. This moving back and forth is like a giant gust of wind that leaves me out of breath.

 

We all live in New...

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