Sandtray Therapy is the Coolest Therapy Ever

Sandtray Therapy is the Coolest Therapy Ever

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Date : April 9, 2017

You may have experienced talk therapy and other modalities, but have never felt they really addressed your problems. Give Sandtray Therapy a try.

I have been a psychotherapist in private practice for almost thirty years. Fifteen years ago, I wrote a highly-acclaimed book titled Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager’s Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy. Grieving my father’s death took place here. He died when I was fifteen years old. I began to look at how his death affected me...

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Grief Continues to Evolve even at Social Security Age

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Date : February 18, 2017

My journey of dealing with my father’s death has taken place over five decades. At times, I travel down familiar roads only to end up spinning my grief around where it has no landing place. Other times I will go down those same roads and previously locked doors will fly open and supreme understanding flows into my heart.

The problem is not knowing when walking down a path repeatedly indicates that you are stuck in your loss or if there are new insights on the horizon. I believe that...

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Saving the Damsel/Dude in Distress Syndrome-Solution

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Date : January 27, 2017

Saving the Damsel/Dude in Distress Syndrome symptoms are:

 

The intense desire to rescue someone who may be seriously self-destructive, drug and or alcohol dependent, and/or a victim of perpetrator of domestic violence. You feel this damsel/dude will not be saved without your intervention. You believe no one else either cares enough or is honest enough to get involved in saving him. This intense desire to rescue is experienced as a desperate obsession. You spend an inordinate amount...
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Ten Signs that it is time to Say Goodbye

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Date : December 29, 2016

Here are signs to determine that it is time to say goodbye to a lover, friend, family member or acquaintance:

He has betrayed you by sharing your secrets with others. She is almost always unavailable for support while you always show up for her. He has a substance abuse problem that he never admits to and says you are the one that has the problem because you  have the nerve to want to discuss his alcoholism. To decrease tension, you admit to emotionally hurting him even though in your heart...
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Rebirth at Age 65: Watching the Trauma Heal

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Date : November 28, 2016

My father died fifty years ago, this month.    I am sixty-five years old and I am going through a rebirth experience.  Most of my life I have believed that my father didn’t love or approve of me.  During the past fifty years, I was locked into a belief system that he despised me. Now because I have experienced proof in photos and written words to refute that belief, I have been feeling his love along with the beat of my heart.

 

I now understand the amygdala’s powerful...

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Returning to the World of Innocence Fifty Years after My Dad’s Death

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Date : November 5, 2016

My father died fifty years ago this month.  I was fifteen years old when he died abruptly from a stroke.  The summer before he died I was optimistic about my upcoming sophomore year of high school.   There was a parade on Labor Day down Raritan Avenue in Highland Park, New Jersey.  Later that afternoon, there were festivities in the park where I served food and ran races.  My friends and I discovered the cold refreshing taste of Rolling Rock beer.  We laughed and checked out the...

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Fifty Years after his Death: Opening my Heart to Dad’s Love

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Date : October 29, 2016

Dedicated to my Loving Sister Marion Livingstone

 

For almost fifty years I believed that my father who died on November 9, 1966 didn’t love or approve of me.  I thought at best he was indifferent towards my presence, but now I’m ready to face the reality that my view point was highly distorted.

 

My sister Marion, who is two years younger than me (I am 65 and she is 63), read my previous blog Healing from the Approval that never came.  She told me that...

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Healing The Approval that Never Came

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Date : October 17, 2016

My father died suddenly of a stroke almost fifty years ago.   I was fifteen and he was fifty-six.  I am now sixty-five years old and his death shattered my teenage life.  I have been trying to understand how his death affected me ever since.   I have written a large body of work about my dad’s life and death.  I am a therapist in private practice and have gone to therapy myself to unravel this mystery.  I have been confused, discovered peace, experienced hidden wounds that rose to the...

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Running is My Medicine

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Date : September 30, 2016

I arise after a fitful night of waking up several times and gazing at the digital clock striking 3:47am.  I am exhausted, depressed, anxious and emotionally swimming in a murky swamp.  The swamp engulfs me as feelings of hopelessness stab me in the heart. My wife kisses me goodbye and I miss her as soon as the door closes. I don’t tell her how I feel because I don’t want to wreck her day.  I don’t want to be selfish.   I feel lost, lonely and alone. I tell myself that I try so hard to be...

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Rescue Me: The Summer of 1966- before my Father’s Death

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Date : September 6, 2016

My father died almost fifty years ago.  I was fifteen when he came home day from work at the factory in the middle of the day in the summer of 1966.  That was highly unusual.    He walked through the door with his hair disheveled and a preoccupied look in his eyes.  My mother told me later that my father had been fired from his job because he forgot to tell his boss that he was going on vacation.

 

My mother, sister, father and I were vacationing in Boston with my mom’s...

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