emotional pain

We will all encounter tragedy in our lives. Crises can be abrupt or take place over a lengthy period of time. We will all experience the death of a loved one. Many of us have faced the turmoil of divorce.; You may have suddenly been laid off from a job you treasure. There are those of us who have lost long term friendships due to a misunderstanding.

All of these tragedies dramatically change lives. Finding yourself alternating between a state of shock, hopelessness and abject fear are common experiences for all these crises.

It is also common to have no other desires but to lay on the couch and be swallowed up by the cushions. It is part of the normal grief process to feel numb, depressed and frightened during the initial stages of loss. Eventually you feel that it is time to move on to the next stage, what ever it is.

The question is: What is the next step and how do you get to it?

The answer to the first part of the question is: Moving Your Body

It doesn’t matter if you are a Brittany Spears fan or not. It doesn’t matter if you feel that the main stream media focuses too much on her and not enough on real news. Brittany is an archetype of the fallen star; where we love to build her up and then relish in her downfall. We focus on her because she mirrors our own fears of failing. It is time to look at our own lives and focus on ourselves. We are all wounded in some way and exercising while looking inward can help heal emotional pain.

At some point in time, we will all have the experience of a loved one dying. The death may be abrupt like a car accident or sudden illness. It may take place over a longer period of time when your loved one has a long-term illness such as cancer. There is nothing to prepare ourselves for such a loss. There is nothing you can read, no words that can be said that will reduce your pain immediately after the death.