We have finally had lots of sunshine the past few days crunched between days and nights of high winds, rain...
Blogs
Facing Grief in Covid Times
My father died suddenly almost 56 ago. He was 56 when he died, and he would have been 112 years...
Creating Safety
Every day we see the headlines and read the newsfeed – the latest Corona surge is running amuck; the most...
The Benefits of Long-Term Therapy
There does not seem to be an agreed upon definition of long-term psychotherapy. I have been a psychotherapist in private...
Acceptance: Deciding to Put Traumatizing Memories to Rest
Acceptance is a loaded term in American society. Many suffer from what I call the closing credits syndrome. This happens...
Life Lessons Learned during the Pandemic
I am looking out the living room window. Nobody is on the street and the quiet is daunting. It is...
Promise of Better Days Ahead: Part 10 Seeking Safety
I wake up in the morning religiously at four thirty AM. I have no need to get up that early. ...
How White People Will Benefit from Fighting Racism
It was sometime during 1969 at my house in suburban New Jersey. I was eighteen years old and one...
DV(Domestic Violence) Poem
This poem is dedicated to all the women I have known in my personal and professional life who have been...
Dealing with Shelter in Place, Stay at Home Orders: COVID-19 Crisis
Many states now have issued Shelter in Place, Stay at Home Orders as ways of preventing the spread of the...
Discovering that you are Worthy
Feeling unworthy can adversely affect the quality of your life. Read on to examine this issue. Ask yourself these questions:...
How to Stop Being Hurtful to Others because you are Triggered
Shirley was driving after an intense day at work. Exhausted, she just wanted to go home and connect with her...
2023
Recovering from being told I was Stupid
We have finally had lots of sunshine the past few days crunched between days and nights of high winds, rain and the daylight-saving time change. This is a difficult time to navigate for anyone of any age. We have the combined traumas of Covid, Climate Change, Censorship, Book Banning, Transphobia, Homophobia, Antisemitism, Racism and the insane Far Right. These traumas trigger previous disturbing memories. I recently turned 72 years old. I still work full time
2022
Facing Grief in Covid Times
My father died suddenly almost 56 ago. He was 56 when he died, and he would have been 112 years old today if he were still alive. I have been a therapist in private practice for 35 years. One of my specialties is grief therapy. I wonder how that happened. I seem to miss him more as time goes on. This is contrary to what the stages of grief will tell you; that one day
2022
Creating Safety
Every day we see the headlines and read the newsfeed – the latest Corona surge is running amuck; the most recent mass shooting is worse than the previous assault weapon massacre; climate change has increased storms and caused long-term weather patterns to be unpredictable; racism is overt and crushing. Waking up in the morning itself has become an anxiety trigger because we never know what to expect, but we do anticipate disaster. Mental Health is
2022
The Benefits of Long-Term Therapy
There does not seem to be an agreed upon definition of long-term psychotherapy. I have been a psychotherapist in private practice for almost thirty-five years. I work with children, teens, and adults. I believe that treatment lasting a year or longer should be considered long-term psychotherapy. Who benefits from long-term therapy? Those who have experienced intense trauma in their lives as well as those whose traumatic experiences have made it difficult to trust others or
2021
Acceptance: Deciding to Put Traumatizing Memories to Rest
Acceptance is a loaded term in American society. Many suffer from what I call the closing credits syndrome. This happens when people think that any problem they experience should cease like the ending of the movie they are watching. They believe their problems should vanish as the rolling of the credits begins. We are taught that all life events should have a beginning, middle and end. The end must be triumphant and have a sense
2021
Life Lessons Learned during the Pandemic
I am looking out the living room window. Nobody is on the street and the quiet is daunting. It is a struggle to find peace in the age of the Corona Virus Pandemic. Many of us are trying to stay safe and help our love one’s escape sickness and death. The kids are mostly on zoom school which has the twin features of increasing distractibility and stifling connections with peers. We all suffer from not
2020
Promise of Better Days Ahead: Part 10 Seeking Safety
I wake up in the morning religiously at four thirty AM. I have no need to get up that early. I don’t have a job that requires predawn awakening. I am startled when I open my eyes and begin to have this worried sensation in my body. My stomach is upset and the quiet in the bedroom is triggering. I don’t want to wake up my wife and trouble her with my nonsense. I immediately
2020
How White People Will Benefit from Fighting Racism
It was sometime during 1969 at my house in suburban New Jersey. I was eighteen years old and one of my friends was visiting. He noticed a book on the end table in our living room. It was titled Soul on Ice by Eldridge Cleaver. My friend picked up the book, looked at the cover and said, “Has your mom turned into a N—————— lover?” I don’t remember what I said, but I
2020
DV(Domestic Violence) Poem
This poem is dedicated to all the women I have known in my personal and professional life who have been victims of domestic violence. You say the sun is bright In the middle of the night You say I don’t need any friends I got you to make amends You say I’m a disgrace When you hit me in the face Then later you deny That bruise on my thigh Your frown turns to
2020
Dealing with Shelter in Place, Stay at Home Orders: COVID-19 Crisis
Many states now have issued Shelter in Place, Stay at Home Orders as ways of preventing the spread of the Coronavirus. We are being required to spend as much time in our homes as possible and to limit contact with others outside our living quarters. The reality of being cooped up for days is intense. Feelings of depression, anxiety and total hopelessness can kick in at any moment. Let’s take some time to talk
[/cmsmasters_text]
[/cmsmasters_column]
Leave a Reply