Bob's Blog

Americans seem to be in a hurry to find a quick fix to their woes. We seem to seek to escape the rigors of our fast paced, activity laden lifestyles through a variety of means. We consume the latest advertised products, watch the latest reality television programs that tend to focus on human humiliation; we drink to excess, take recreational and prescribed drugs and play video games for hours.

One of ever two American marriages ends up in divorce. I am a psychotherapist in private practice and have worked with many couples over the years. The realization that their marriage is in crisis is what brings couples into my office. It seems that individuals are having extreme difficulty connecting with others on an intimate level. This happens because they are not sure of what intimacy means and they are frightened to let their guards down in order to allow this closeness to occur. The art of intimacy is not taught in many places in modern society.

It doesn’t matter if you are a Brittany Spears fan or not. It doesn’t matter if you feel that the main stream media focuses too much on her and not enough on real news. Brittany is an archetype of the fallen star; where we love to build her up and then relish in her downfall. We focus on her because she mirrors our own fears of failing. It is time to look at our own lives and focus on ourselves. We are all wounded in some way and exercising while looking inward can help heal emotional pain.