Facing Grief in Covid Times

My father died suddenly almost 56 ago. He was 56 when he died, and he would have been 112 years old today if he were still alive. I have been a therapist in private practice for 35 years.  One of my specialties is grief therapy. I wonder how that happened.  I seem to miss him...

When Letting Go of Anger isn’t Possible, Helpful or Desirable

My name is Bob Livingstone and I have been a psychotherapist in private practice for thirty years. I work with children, teens and adults in The San Francisco Bay Area. I continue to work on my own struggles, roadblocks, insights and dreams. Today anger is raising its unruly head. I am on a five mile...

It’s Time to End this Relationship:  Learning Not to Care

You have been in a close relationship with a lover or friend for a long time. Extreme effort is put forth trying to improve communication and mutual understanding. Sometimes he seems to get it, if only for a moment. Guilt overwhelms and confuses you. You try so hard to connect with his sense of decency....

Saving the Damsel/Dude in Distress Syndrome symptoms are:   The intense desire to rescue someone who may be seriously self-destructive, drug and or alcohol dependent, and/or a victim of perpetrator of domestic violence. You feel this damsel/dude will not be saved without your intervention. You believe no one else either cares enough or is honest...

Here are signs to determine that it is time to say goodbye to a lover, friend, family member or acquaintance: He has betrayed you by sharing your secrets with others. She is almost always unavailable for support while you always show up for her. He has a substance abuse problem that he never admits to...